Alone

It amazes me that a lot people seem afraid to be alone. If you can't get along with yourself then how can you ever get along with others? Furthermore, most people freak out when/if they have to attend an event or eat alone. This stems from an incident during my last vacation/trip. I attended a sporting event alone as my better half went shopping. I sat watching the action and the guy to my left kept glancing at me every minute or so. Finally, during a break in the action, he makes a comment to me about the play of the home team and said he wanted to make sure I didn't cause any trouble since I was wearing a visiting team hat. I laughed and said he had nothing to worry about. Well, this was his opening, he started to talk to me and tell me where he was from followed by inquiring about my home town. I gave him enough information to satisfy him, his face then got serious and he said "are you here alone?" No, he didn't say it in a creepy voice like a guy picking up somebody in a bar. I told him yes and he was amazed, which led to him asking if I was in the city alone and I told him no, he wanted to know if she was somewhere alone or was she at the game. This happened earlier in the year as I was out of town on business and paid the local ballpark a visit, an Italian woman and her family drove me nuts with questions. Does the thought of doing something like that alone scare people? I mean I was with people before and after the event, not that it should matter. Do you need another person to make an event enjoyable? Can a person not sit back and just enjoy an event? Really, it was a good deal, the wife wanted to shop and I didn't, I wanted to attend a game and she didn't - it is that simple. We're secure enough with ourselves and relationship to be without the other for a while. Actually, I do plenty of things on my own even when in my city of residence. Should the wishes or presence of another person always play a role in activities? I do a lot of things that don't interest the wife and vice versa, and we do many things together - it seems healthy to be your own person. I guess being single is a bit different - it's been awhile for me, but I did enjoy it years ago - as a lot of people seem to jump in another relationship after another ends. My brother was married a decade before getting a divorce and was engaged to another within a year. That really seems too fast especially since he only dated that one person following the marriage, and the second relationship never reached matrimony as it ended when it was discovered that she was messing around - she travelled a lot for work and had plenty of action in other parts of the world. Anyway, I am comfortable with myself so that I can pursue activities that interest me and I encourage the missus to do the same - it helps keep the relationship fresh with new stuff to share and we keep growing personally. Or, maybe, just maybe, I am completely wrong.